A Story Told Too Many Times

I've had too many people tell me about that one person that they just can't stand, that one person that has done something horrible to them and it will never be forgiven. I've had to tell too many people that forgiving others is hard but it's always the best choice, it's something I learned from a dear friend, one that I rarely speak to now. Don't get me wrong, what someone has done may sting like a thousand wasps but everything will be okay. I've been crushed on the inside multiple times and it hurt more than anything I've ever experienced but because of the words she has spoken to me, I've been able to forgive and forget. Whenever I say to someone that they should forgive I always include that healing takes time and that they can spend as much time as they need in order to begin forgiving. I always have a temporary moment of hatred, anger, and spite before I begin to let go and it could last anywhere between a few hours to a few months. I've hated plenty of people and it wasn't until August of 2011 that I began to understand that spite gets you nowhere. I may not speak to these people or act friendly to them, but I don't go out of my way to spread rumors and talk about them behind thier back. It's just so much easier to let go of things and carry on with life rather than stay hung up on the details of the past and let them ruin your future. I feel like I've made amends with my Ex-psuedo-spouses, (it's what I call a girlfriend/boyfriend rather than the obvious, sounds much more sophisticated, yes?) my first psuedo-spouse and I are still very good friends and we make plans to hang out every once in awhile, my second and I are less friendly to eachother, we don't plan to hang out, and we rarely talk but I never speak ill of her and if she needs help, I'm happy to assist. All of my childhoood enemies and I are on common ground (or at least I hope so...) because of time, I've not spoken to many of them and they've not spoken to me, I don't get dirty looks and I don't send them either. I try hard to be a good person and there may be someone that comes along and hurts me but they will always be forgiven because I've stopped myself from caring about the past. It feels good to vent anger but it feels better to rid yourself of hate.